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Alone Does Not Have to Mean Lonely

Alone does not have to equal Lonely

08.04.24 03:20 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

As a single mom who is now an empty nester, I am often asked if I am lonely. I will admit, it was a tough transition at first, but now it is my new normal. I actually enjoy time to myself, and I feel that this is in large part due to the fact that I spend most of my days interacting with lots of people at work.  I also see my parents regularly and my kids as often as I can. I have a nice social life with a dinner plans a few times a month, but I also very much enjoy the evenings I can come home and just be alone. I have a hobby which I am very passionate about, and I devote a lot of time to this. Many nights, I have work to do at home which also occupies some of my alone time. If I am lucky enough to have a night without work to do, I take full advantage of the opportunity to do whatever I want or nothing at all. This doesn’t happen very often, so perhaps that’s why I truly value it. 

If you have followed us for a while, you know that I raised my daughters in a three generation household with my parents. I was very fortunate to have their help since I became a single mom when I had a 2 year old and a 2 month old. We all lived together for 20 years. I went from always having roommates in college and medical school, to then living with my husband and later with the kids too (for a short while) and finally with my parents and my kids. I had never, in all my life, lived alone. When my kids went off to college, I still lived in the home we all shared with my parents for 3 more years after my youngest left. It was just 9 months ago that my parents and I sold the family home we had all enjoyed for 20 years and downsized moving into separate homes.  It was a major transition which  definitely took getting used to. We also have two dogs who live with my parents, so I am truly alone in my townhouse unless my kids come back to visit. 

I had never minded being alone, but I will say the silence was overwhelming at first. I was used to no kids for a while, but now there was no-one at all and not even a barking dog when I came through the door. This led me to immediately turn on the tv when I came in just for the noise. After a few weeks, it became my new normal, and my new routine set in. I came to enjoy the silence, especially after a long day in the office with non-stop talking to people for many hours. I did not feel lonely. I was ready for some down time. 

Knowing that I have family and friends who I can be with often, I never feel truly lonely. I can now indulge in the quiet moments and try to recharge. I love the people in my life, but I am content being by myself. At this stage, I also do not feel like I need a significant other to make my life complete. I always describe myself as “happily divorced” or “happily single”. I have a fierce independent streak, and I know it would be very difficult for me to find a person who could fit into the life I have created for myself. My life is full just as it is.  Being alone is very different from being lonely…don’t be lonely. Learn how to value your own company.💗

Adrienne Towsen

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    A Closer Look at Avaline Wines

    Highlight on Avaline Wines

    03.25.24 02:31 PM Comment(s) By Lisa

    New Working Mom Finds!



    It’s pretty apparent us Working Moms enjoy wine! I have spent a long time studying wine, tasting wine, and truly appreciating it. I have said it before, it’s like travel in a glass. The same grape varietal when planted in different terroirs will yield completely different wines. We are always in search of good wine that is both delicious and reasonably priced. 



    We came across some advertisements recently with Cameron Diaz drinking wine. We had no idea until paying a bit closer attention that she and her best friend Katherine Power created a company called Avaline Wines. Their goal was to create wine with transparency. 



    Did you know that winemakers have zero obligation to tell you how their grapes are grown, or to list additives such as concentrates, food color, or other chemicals used to alter the taste and/or texture of the wine? 




    Avaline has set out to squash that practice with complete transparency. Click the link to read more about their ingredients:  CLICK-HERE.  




    Avaline wines are vegan (Can you believe I even have to say that? Some winemakers use animal by-products during production and it doesn’t have to be disclosed!!). The following are Aveline’s only ingredients: organic grapes, low sulfite concentrations  (which are a natural byproduct of the winemaking process), yeast species that are naturally found on the grape skins, yeast nutrients that are organic micronutrients that support the yeast activity, and organic cane sugar only for the production of the sparkling wines, which by the way, are fermented down to less than 1-gram of sugar by the time the process is done. Most of their wines have zero grams of sugar due to complete fermentation. Now THAT is something to celebrate! 




    Avaline wines can be found in your local stores or can be ordered online. Adrienne ordered the ‘Intro Set’, which includes 2 Red, 2 RosĂ©, 2 White, 1 Pinot noir, 1 Cabernet sauvignon, and 1 Sparkling. So far, we are REALLY liking them. They are mostly in the $25 price-range if purchased separately.  New customers receive a discount with their first order and shipping is free! 




    Their website is pretty cool too! “Cameron’s Kitchen” is a section that shares many of Cameron Diaz’s favorite recipes, each with a recommended Avaline wine pairing. Try her “Creamy Mushroom Pasta With Garlic and Shallots”, paired with “Avaline Red” that is a blend of Grenache, Syrah, Carignan, and Cinsault varietals. Here is the link for this recipe: CLICK-HERE


    So far we have casually tasted the Red, the White, and the RosĂ©. All 3 were great for the price point. 


    Looking forward to trying the Italian reds and the sparkling… 




    Check out our recent Working Mom shenanigans. I brought my bestie some Avaline wine…. 

    CLICK-HERE

    Stay tuned for updated information, blogs, quick recipes, and tips for balancing life as a working mom. Follow-us on social media and let us know your thoughts! If there are missing topics you would like us to delve into, let us know! 


    Ciao for now! 

    -Lisa


    Adrienne & Lisa (Cofounders of The Working Mom, LLC)

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    Avaline Wines: Descriptions and Personal Impressions

    Avaline Wines (Their Descriptions and My Humble Impressions)

    08.14.24 11:01 AM Comment(s) By Lisa

    Here is the Quick Rundown of Avaline’s Current Wine Selection!

    All of these wines are available online, but you can also find 

    some of them at stores such as Whole Foods and Total Wine. 

    The Reds

    Lambrusco- A fun, fizzy Italian red that’s perfect for sipping in every season. Ours is bubbly, with juicy notes of plum and zero grams of sugar per serving. [I have yet to try this… I’ll keep you posted!]

    Sangiovese– A crowd pleasing, bold Italian red with notes of stone fruit and roasted cherries. A limited time, online exclusive. [I absolutely loved this wine! It’s perfectly tannic, full-bodied, and goes perfectly with a bowl of pasta with gravy- Yes, Italian red gravy!]

    Pinot Noir– Our lightest red, with delicious notes of wild raspberry and cherry that pair well with everything. [I hate to say it but I have high standards when it comes to Pinot Noir. I thought this wine was a little too watered down. This varietal is incredibly temperamental due to it’s thin skin, so the growing conditions need to be perfect. The grapes most likely took in a bit too much rainwater, making them swell, which in turn would dilute the flavors. I’m looking forward to the release of their next vintage. It could have just been an iffy growing season for this wine.]

    RedA blend of Grenache, Syrah, Carignan, and Cinsault. This is Cameron’s favorite Red: it has a light to medium body with hints of cherry and a touch of spice. [I really enjoyed this wine. Medium-bodied, a little spicy, aromatic, and dry. They did good with this one!]

     

    Cabernet Sauvignon– Our bolder red for cozy nights ahead, with a medium to full body, notes of red berries and a touch of cocoa. [I did enjoy this wine as well. It’s a bit overpriced to be an every-day drinking wine, but it does pair well with beef, pizza, and dark chocolate.]

    The Whites

    Chardonnay– A full-bodied Chardonnay featuring smooth notes of pear, oak, ripe apricot and almond with a refreshing-yet-soft finish. Only available online. [Here is another one I wasn’t super excited about. It is full-bodied and overly fruity. It wasn’t dry enough for my taste. I do know others who have enjoyed this wine. I will give it another try, maybe pair it with something spicy, such as an Asian cuisine. I will update these recommendations from time to time and vintage to vintage.]

    Pinot Grigio– A crisp Italian white with soft floral notes and hints of hazelnut. A limited time, online exclusive.  [BUY THIS WINE IF YOU ENJOY A CRISP PERFECTLY BALANCED WHITE WINE!!! I absolutely loved this wine. It is limited, so buy it before you miss out on it. I don’t typically lean towards Pinot Grigio because they are typically too “mineral-forward”. Not this one. It is perfect, lightly floral, light crisp notes of apple and toast. In my opinion, it’s way underpriced for how delicious it is!]

    White– A blend of Parellada, White Grenache, Xarel-lo, and Macabeo grapes. This is an everyday, easy-drinking white. It’s dry with a touch of citrus and a crisp, fresh finish. [This is just as they describe… I also REALLY liked this wine. It’s perfect in the summer, and also as a spritzer (as Cameron suggests). Pour over ice and top it off with some plain seltzer water.]

     

    Sparkling– A blend of Macabeo, Xarel-lo, Parellada, and Malvasia grapes. A dry and refreshing Sparkling with delicate bubbles. No celebration necessary. [This sparkling wine is delicious! Another fantastic choice to drink on its own, or with fresh fruit and dark chocolate.]

     

    Sauvignon Blanc– Our lightest sip yet, with crisp notes of ripe citrus and a hint of rose petals. [This is yet another varietal that I don’t typically lead towards, but I really liked this wine too! It is light, not overly sweet like some of these varietals can be, and it’s well balanced between the citrus and floral notes].

    ROSÉ

    Sparkling RosĂ©– A limited edition Sparkling RosĂ© aged for 15+ months featuring notes of raspberry and citrus, with a toasty brioche finish. A limited time, online exclusive.  [This is yet another fantastic choice. It’s also in limited quantities, so get it while you still can!]

    RosĂ©– Light, fresh (and French) with notes of melon and zest. The best RosĂ© Katherine has ever had. [I have had some amazing RosĂ©’s. The best ones come from Provence, France. This is a really good representation. They have blended Grenache, Cinsault, Caladoc, and Syrah, to create this wine. It’s another fantastic summer choice, light-bodied, mildly tart (cherry) that ends with light notes of pepper.


    CLICK HERE to place your order today. Don’t forget to use the promo code: AUGUST15  for 15% off your total order. 


    We hope you are enjoying the rest of your summer! 

    ~Xoxo Lisa & Adrienne

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    Adult-Only Vacation With Your Kids

    Adult Only Vacation With Your Kids!

    09.13.23 04:55 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

    So you might be thinking how is it possible to have an adults only vacation with your kids? Simple answer…your kids are adults! Last summer I traveled with my adult children and shared highlights of our trip to Asia in a previous blog post. It was an amazing adventure. However this summer we did something completely different, and our vacation was actually at an all inclusive adults only resort in Mexico. It was an amazing place which I would highly recommend, The Excellence Playa Mujeres, Cancun.🏝

    When we are trying to plan a trip all together now, we are at the mercy of two work schedules, one college schedule and the fact that we live in three different states. Gone are the days when I could just take off the week of their spring break or in the summer and plan whatever we wanted to do fairly easily all leaving from and returning to the same location. Now we had to plan well in advance so both my older daughter and I could take time off from work, and we would not be interfering with the start of my younger daughter’s senior year of college and the end of her summer job on campus. We were able to pick the dates and coordinate flights to arrive and depart within a half an hour of each other which was nice and helpful for transfers to and from the resort. We only had four days there, but it was wonderful quality time. 

    We arrived on a Friday evening and encountered some rain on the way to the resort which was about 35 minutes from the airport. We tried to refrain from constantly checking the weather forecast for the next few days because sadly it was not good at all. Full days of rain and clouds were expected without even a glimpse of the sun😳. We were determined not to let that bother us, but truth be told, the hope was this would be a restful few days at the beach and pool enjoying plenty of sunshine. The first day was not the best, but rain was intermittent and we did spend time at the beach with three good books!

    The following day we had a spa morning which was so nice. I have no photos because it was one of several times during this trip that our phones were stored away, and we just enjoyed what we were doing. Once we left the spa, the weather began to cooperate more, and we had time at both the pool and beach. Not full on sun, but better than the day before, so we were happy!

    We enjoyed several different restaurants for lunch and dinner. We went to the same place for breakfast most days which had an expansive buffet and the nicest staff. Lunch and dinner options included, Mexican, Italian, French, Seafood and a Steakhouse. There were ample options for cocktails throughout the day including service at the beach and a swim up bar at the main pool.đŸč

    On our third day we did a planned tour to ChichĂ©n Itza. This is one of the most visited archeological sites in Mexico, and one of the seven wonders of the world. Here you see the ruins of one of the largest Mayan cities. The most famous building is the Temple of KukulacĂĄn (El Castillo) which is the pyramid like structure pictured below. It was definitely something to see! The tour included a couple of other stops and was a full day excursion as this area is nearly three hours from the resort in Cancun. Well worth the trip! 

    (p.s. weather continued to improve!)

    Our final day was extra special because it was my older daughter’s 23rd birthday! 🎂  Not a cloud in the sky!!☀ The resort had some nice options to help us celebrate with flowers and champagne, and we also came with gifts from home. We had a lovely room service breakfast on the balcony of our room complete with mimosas! Moved on from there to a beautiful beach and pool day. They offered a “sip and paint” activity on the beach that afternoon which was so much fun. Artists we are not, but I will say the girls’ paintings outshined mom’s for sure. That evening was dinner with a birthday celebration in the restaurant thanks to the amazing staff. The grand finale was a silent dance party. I had never seen this before, but the kids had, and it was a blast. We are sitting in the photo below, but once we tuned into the music in the headphones, it was on to the dance floor! 

    Please enjoy some more photos of this beautiful resort, and if you are considering a trip to Mexico, I would highly recommend it. As mentioned, the Excellence  is adults only, so if you are looking for a little getaway with your spouse, partner or friends without the kids, it could be a good option. It is perfectly okay to do this once in a while. Some rest, relaxation and the ability to “recharge your battery” can be very helpful for a working mom. However, I must admit that a trip like this with your adult kids is truly amazing. You can rest assured you did something right if they are happy to vacation with you once they have moved away and have their own busy lives. I am very fortunate, and look forward to the next one. My advice…take the trips for as long as you can, explore the world and enjoy the quality time!âœˆïžđŸ’—đŸ’—

    Adrienne Towsen

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      Recognizing and Recovering from Career Burnout

      Burn Out

      04.06.23 07:04 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

      Burn out…a term I seem to hear a lot these days. I have been in healthcare for over 20 years, and there has been a significant change in the field during that time. It can be very difficult to deal with burn out at work and not let it affect your home life.  We have discussed the struggles of working moms from many different perspectives with our blog entries over the past couple of years. We have discussed ways to try and balance work and motherhood. We have given examples of how to make the most of the quality time you have with your kids and let go of the guilt you feel when you are not with them.  So what about when you struggle with your chosen career? Most working moms, myself included, will shout from the rooftops about how their job/career is part of their identity and not something they wanted to give up once they became a mom. They will take it one step further and explain how being fulfilled at work makes them a better mom. So despite the stress and struggles, we will say it”s worth it…until it’s not. As we become more mature (my term for older 😉), we start to look at life differently. I would argue that some of the beliefs we adopt as we age and reflect on the years gone by, should be present earlier in life, and we should, if at all possible, do everything in our power to avoid having to use the term “burn out”.

      I entered medical school in 1994 with dreams of becoming an orthopedic surgeon, realizing it would be a long road ahead. I could not have been more excited to match into an excellent residency program, and I started that journey in 1998. It was crazy long hours and a lot of hard work in a very male dominated specialty. I continued on the path toward my dream and had the great fortune to become a mom during that time as well.  Another dream come true…to be the mom of two amazing daughters. Onward to a fellowship and then my first “real job” as a hospital employed attending physician. Two years later I left that job and joined the practice which I am still a partner in today. I have been with my current private practice for 17 years, so a total of 19 years in practice plus the 5 years of residency and 1 year of fellowship before that.  Quick math brings us to 25 years as a doctor!  As we all often say related to many circumstances… “where did the time go?” How is it possible that I have daughters in their twenties and I am soon to be 52? I truly can’t believe it. Residency seems like a lifetime ago and the pure excitement of my work and helping people also seems like a thing of the past. Physician…it is one of the most noble professions. We devote our young adult years to studying, training and  sacrificing so we can help people. We expect to make a good living doing so in order to pay off our medical school loans and all the debt we may continue to acquire during residency.  However, we realize the perception of the “rich doctor” is false and also a thing of the past, but we still hope to be compensated well for what do.

      We realize the business of healthcare has become something we no longer recognize. We continue to work hard for some giant health system or mega private practice and no longer have the control over how we want to practice medicine. We are governed by the insurance companies and the big business types who run the health systems and practices. We are the hamsters on the wheel dealing with all kinds of restrictions and denials and decreased reimbursements. Much of the time, we are  justifying what we are doing to people who are no longer or never were clinicians yet have the right to deny the MRIs we want to order or the surgery the patient needs because all the little boxes on their computer screen were not checked. Yet if he or she was the patient, they would surely have a different opinion.  

      I suppose anything you do for 20+ years can become stale, and the term burn out can be found in many different occupations. I do feel like it is an epidemic in the healthcare industry right now. This is not unique to physicians. It is being seen in physician assistants, nurses, therapists and all other types of healthcare workers. The rewarding aspect of this profession is being smothered by the struggles and frustrations dealt with on a daily basis. We are dealing with lack of resources and staffing which has been amplified since the pandemic. Obviously, healthcare was affected significantly during the pandemic, and we continue to feel the effects of that now. However, I don’t think we can blame the entirety of the current situation on Covid. Many of these issues were present before, but are certainly amplified now.  I don’t know if there is a solution, because it can be very hard for many of us to make a change in our career once we have been in it for many years. Maybe we don’t even want to do that, but we just want to work in a better environment. We have worked very hard to have a special skill set with the ability to treat patients, and in the case of surgeons, we have spent countless hours perfecting our craft so that we can be trusted to cut into another human being. It is truly a unique position to hold, and it brings with it a tremendous amount of stress and responsibility. I may not have anyone’s life in may hands as an orthopedic surgeon versus another specialty such as  cardiothoracic surgery,  but there is still a lot of pressure on me every time I walk into that OR to do a shoulder surgery, even when I have done it thousands of times before. That part of my job, while stressful at times, I still enjoy very much.  The OR is a special place which is hard to describe unless you work there. 

      There is no greater reward than a happy, appreciative patient who sings your praises during a post-op visit and utters the words.. “you changed my life”. I have received many thoughtful notes over the years and cared for many families who have become special to me.  Despite all of that, there are some days when I admit feeling like it is time to walk away. Problem is…I can’t…most of us can’t. We need to make a living and take care of our families. Our families…who often take the brunt of our frustrations when we come home in a bad mood or too tired to play with our kids or go out to dinner. Our families…who we love and want the best for but know on some days we are not equipped to be the best moms we can be because the day at work has truly sucked the life out of us. Our families… who just want to talk and wonder “how was our day?”…but we have no words left after talking to 30 patients and every unhappy member of the staff who feels overworked. Our families…who love us unconditionally, no matter how cranky we are. Our families…specifically are kids who look up to us and want nothing more than to be with us and can’t wait for us to get home from work… until they are teenagers of course😉 

      So what is the answer? I wish I knew. What would I do differently so that I would not be a member of the burn out club? I don’t know. Could I have made a change in my career ten years ago which would have avoided this…the answer is no. Once again, I trained for years to be able to do what I do. I am good at what I do, and I have helped thousands of patients over the years. I can still be excited about a day in the OR when I have a bunch of my favorite cases to do with a great team and music playing in the background. I can have a great day in the office when my PA comes and tells me she has seen a string of happy post-op patients who are progressing ahead of schedule and are so thankful. I can be happy when new patients come in and say they were recommended to me by a friend or family member who I took care of in the past with a great outcome. 

      I am blessed to work with many wonderful people, but even all of these good things can’t make up for the struggles and frustrations on a daily basis as well as the long hours I still put in with less and less to show for it as time goes by. All of these good things I just listed are not enough to keep me in this role if I was financially and otherwise able to walk away now. I have given medicine/orthopedics 25 years of my life, and while many give much more, I could be satisfied with this, and feel that I have given enough. I am fortunate to know that my now adult kids do not resent  my career.  As they got older,  they understood the demands of my work and appreciated how I put them first always even if I occasionally had to miss something.  It was a rare occurrence, and we were lucky to have the amazing support of my parents who could always be there if I couldn’t. 

      At almost 52, what would I tell my 42 year old self to do differently? 

      1. Think about other possibilities, plan ahead.

      2. Consider the chance that this career may not be what you want to retire from at 65.

      3. Invest more and learn more about passive income, 

          but don’t deprive yourself or your kids of fun things or experiences. 

      4. Explore other avenues/careers which could utilize your specialized training.

      5. Learn something new (would likely be impossible as a single full time working mom) but could try.

      6. Don’t bring your work frustrations home (actually that is better advice for almost 52 year old me!)

      7. Realize that life is short and you will be almost 52 in the blink of an eye. 

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        Make Their Dreams Your Dreams

        Make their dreams your dreams…

        09.06.20 05:06 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

        Will they like what I like? Will they do what I do? Will they follow in my footsteps and choose the same career path? Just a few of the many questions we ask ourselves as parents while we watch our kids grow and develop their personalities and interests. As a working mom, you may wonder especially if your daughters will travel down the same road you did, assuming you feel it’s a good road to travel.  Do you try and steer them that way or do you leave the door wide open for them to explore all things? I think there is a natural tendency to want your kids to be interested in the same things you are, especially if it’s your passion. This may not necessarily be work related but may refer to a sport or hobby.  If, on the other hand, you feel unhappy or dissatisfied with job choices or other aspects of your life, your goal may be to steer them away from these things and try to point them in other directions. While it is  important to provide guidance for our kids, I also feel it is critical to let them find what interests them and encourage and support them as they follow their dreams. Obviously it is also our responsibility to give them good advice and help them make appropriate decisions for their future. There is a happy medium in there somewhere!

        I discovered the quote above when I was creating a senior yearbook tribute page for my older daughter, and I thought it was fabulous. Anyone reading this who knows me or has checked out my bio on the website realizes that I am an orthopedic surgeon. I get asked at least once a week by patients or other people I meet if my kids are planning to be doctors too. My answer is “no and I’m glad they are not”. People seem shocked sometimes when I say that. I say it that way for a two reasons. First of all, while I love what I do as a surgeon, and it is very rewarding to help people, the medical field has changed drastically over the years and in many ways not for the better. Secondly, while they respect what I do, they have no interest in it and they are both currently heading down their own paths. I could not be more proud, and I support them 100%. I am very fortunate to have two intelligent, hard working daughters who are determined to follow their dreams. 

        I think this starts when they are young.  My interests as a kid were primarily school and sports. I played lacrosse from grade 7 through college, and I also had a horse and competed in many horse shows during my high school years. When I had two girls, I thought for sure at least one of them would play lacrosse (neither one did), and I started them in horseback riding lessons at the ages of 4 and 6.

        I show my then 4 year old because she did actually seem to really like it even at that age, whereas my older daughter was going through the motions, but I knew it wasn’t for her. She did it for a few summers, but I made sure she knew she didn’t have to continue just because she thought I wanted her too. She decided to stop, and at that time, they both stopped because my younger one didn’t want to go without her sister. She, however, did truly enjoy it and returned several years later with huge success as a competitive rider.

        And just for fun…Here I am at age 16 on my amazing horse Jessie!

        My older daughter had a passion for books at a young age, and it blossomed into an incredible world of her own. She read the Hunger Games trilogy in fifth grade and she was sold. She became and avid reader, and her bookshelves in her bedroom were her prize possession. I was always a good student and read what I needed to for school, but that was about it. I found it fascinating to see her develop such a serious interest in this, and before I knew it, she had favorite authors and we were traveling around to book signings. 

        She then introduced me to Book Con, a huge convention filled with authors and publishing companies, etc. It was amazing. We traveled to this for a few years in a row and it was so wonderful to watch her engage in all the events there and meet up with friends she made through this interest and via a youtube community called book tube that she became a part of. It was something I knew nothing about and loved learning about it through her. I would often tell her “you are so interesting to me” … I think at first she didn’t know what to make of that comment, but I explained it was the best complement I could give her. It was amazing to watch her be true to her interests and pursue all of these things which were totally unique.

        Danielle’s passion evolved into so much more. She is now junior in college at Emerson in Boston and a journalism major. She is doing amazing things both behind and in front of the camera, and I cannot wait to see where she will end up once she graduates. She maintains a love for books, but also culture, music, travel and absolutely thrived when she did a semester abroad last year. This was something I never did, and then as a parent I was a little apprehensive about at first. She had her heart set on it, and I was not going to stand in her way. Off she went to the Netherlands and traveled around Europe on the weekends. It was an incredible experience for her and another thing that will mold her life moving forward into something so different from mine. I think it’s awesome!

        Kayla’s riding will hopefully continue in college, but she will now follow her passion for a career in the fashion industry. I am a huge fan of clothes and have the closets (yes plural) to prove it, but it was not something I was all that interested in at a young age. Kayla developed an amazing sense of style especially through her high school years but also has similar interests to her sister with regard to culture and travel. She thinks she may want to be involved in a fashion magazine. College in New York City is a huge step in the right direction. I cannot wait to see what she will do as she moves on in school and hopefully studies abroad her junior year at one of NYU’s fashion programs. Again, a world very different from mine, and I am so excited for her!

        So…I have a mixed bag. I share many interests with both of my daughters and we have enjoyed many experiences over the years related to these things like travel, concerts & broadway shows, They have grown up and figured out how to pursue their goals. We live in the suburbs, but they are city girls all the way and have both ended up in the perfect schools in the perfect cities. I firmly believe they are right where they belong, and I hope that they will move on from their college careers and follow their dreams. I think I am even more proud of them for having dreams and passions which are different from mine. I think both would admit they have always felt supported in everything they do, and for that I feel I have done what I need to as a parent. Let them be individuals and just be you for Halloween!!

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          Holiday Beverage Traditions from Around the World

          Holiday Beverage Traditions from Around the World

          11.17.22 09:16 PM Comment(s) By Lisa


          Holiday Cheer Around the World


          As we are approaching Thanksgiving and the December holiday season, I thought I would focus on the holiday beverage traditions around the world. For those of us in the northern hemisphere it is cold, dark, and often festive with the holiday lights, sounds, and scents.

          The Wassail is a tradition most commonly associated with cider country Wassail in England. It is mentioned in many holiday songs and stories. It is an apple cider drink, mulled with spices and spiked with brandy or a neutral schnapps. Wassail is traditionally consumed as an integral part of wassailing, an ancient southern English drinking ritual intended to ensure a good cider apple harvest the following year.

          Wassail



          In Hungary, mulled wine, or Forralt bor, is almost always made with sweet white wine, which is further sweetened with honey and spiced with whole peppercorns.


          Forralt bor

          In Germany and Austria, people drink G lĂŒhwein, which is traditionally sharpened with fresh orange juice, and a fair amount of rum.


          GlĂŒhwein


          The Germans also have never shied away from a spectacle involving alcohol (as anyone who has ever stepped into a Munich beer hall during Oktoberfest can attest) and the ‘Flaming wine’ tradition, usually saved for Christmas day or Christmas parties, is no exception. This involves the host of the party making a large batch of hot wine, either traditional glĂŒhwein, or something a little more exotic, and placing a rum-drenched cone of sugar on top of it. The sugar is then set alight and brought into the party to an eruption of cheering and singing. As the guests gather around the beautiful, flickering blue flame, the wine is spooned into glasses and enjoyed for its warming properties.

          Flaming wine


          The Scandinavians possibly do it best of all — you really need a decent pick-me-up halfway through their winter, often around Christmas-time, and their beverage called Glogg includes booze soaked raisins and almonds, shots of port and brandy, Muscatel, cardamom and plenty of other spices. Though it almost always is made by warming red wine with sugar, ginger, cinnamon, clove, and cardamom, each country has its own take on this holiday classic. Swedes serve theirs with a spoon so you can scoop out all the alcohol-soaked dried fruits and nuts, while Norwegians often spike it further with a heavy pour of Aquavit. In Denmark, port wine is a frequent addition.


          Glogg 


          This “Cream of Life” cocktail is a specialty drink from Cuba resembling eggnog and seems even more beloved than its North American counterpart. Named in both Spanish and French, Crema de Vie has become a staple holiday drink for both Cubans and Cuban Americans. Recipes vary, but typically include rich, sweet ingredients like condensed milk, evaporated milk, vanilla extract, sugar, egg yolks, and white rum. Like eggnog, this drink is often served with a sprinkle or stick of cinnamon.

          Cream of Life



          Belgium also has its traditions. It’s not surprising that a country known for its beers makes hundreds of limited-run specialty brews just for the Christmas season. Think beer with a spiced twist, featuring flavors of orange peel, cinnamon, clove, and vanilla. Many of these beers are brewed near Antwerp in a town called Essen and are hard to find outside of the area.


          Belgium limited-run specialty brews

          Of course, mid-December is the hottest time of the year for half the world. The Australians make a big deal out of their wine drinking at Christmas time. This is the time of year to get out those crisp, fruity Australian white wines, and serve them cold alongside a barbecue with your friends. There are even Australian bars selling wine popsicles during the Christmas holidays. 


          Australian wine popsicles


          In France, if you were in the Midi-PyrĂ©nĂ©es village called Viella, you could go to New Year’s Eve mass and then head to the vineyards to help create the rare French wine called Pacherenc du Vic-Bilh. Grapes (usually petit manseng, gros manseng and courbu) that have become raisinated on the vine are picked after midnight for this dessert wine.

          Pacherenc du Vic-Bilh


          In Spain the New Year’s Eve pairing is a glass of cava and a handful of grapes. It is a tradition to eat twelve grapes, one on each chime of the clock. This tradition has its origins in 1909, when grape growers in Alicante thought of it as a way to cut down on the large production surplus, they had had that year. Nowadays, the tradition is followed by almost every Spaniard, and the twelve grapes have become synonymous with the New Year. After the clock has finished striking twelve, people greet each other and toast with sparkling wine, such as cava.


          Cava and a handful of grapes

          Spiked eggnog, the popular holiday drink that can be served hot or cold, started out in 1700s England as a hot drink called posset or sack posset with wine. Americans added milk to the mix and rum,or brandy replaced the wine. By the 1830s, eggnog was a cold drink in most of the U.S.


          Spiked eggnog

          In Chile, people celebrating New Year’s Eve drop a gold ring into a glass of bubbly and then drink it carefully; it is one of their many “cĂĄbalas” (good luck traditions). The gold ring is a symbol of prosperity.


          Chilean gold ring into a glass of bubbly


          With temperatures clinging to the 80s during the holiday season, it’s no surprise that Jamaica’s Christmastime cocktail is bright, refreshing, and served over ice. Sorrel Punch is basically a hibiscus tea brewed with spicy, fresh-grated ginger and warming spices like pimento (similar to allspice) and cinnamon. Red wine and white Jamaican rum give it that extra festive kick, while the combination of island ingredients help give drinkers of this tart dark red punch a taste of Jamaica in a cup.


          Sorrel Punch


          I hope you enjoyed the world festive beverage traditions in time for the upcoming holidays.

          Ciao to 2022, best wishes to all of our friends and family, and cheers to a happy holiday season! 


          Saluti!

          Xoxo -Lisa.
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          Ways to Counteract Childhood Entitlement

          Guest Author: Parenting Expert Stef Tousignant

          10.20.22 03:54 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

          We are so happy to share a post from our first guest author, Stef Tousignant! She provides excellent strategies to deal with childhood entitlement. Please enjoy this post just as we did and check out more of Stef’s work through the links provided in her bio at the end of the post. You can also follow her on Instagram @parent_differently. Many thanks to Stef for this great contribution to our blog!💗 

           

          3 Ways to Counteract Childhood Entitlement

          By Stef Tousignant

          From two-day shipping to food delivery at our fingertips, we never really have to wait too long for anything, do we? In fact, I can roll into a reserved spot at Target, and someone will bring my entire order out to me without having to unbuckle one car seat. Just wow. 

          The convenience and time saved is utterly fantastic, but it would be careless of me to begin an entire article on Entitlement without acknowledging that our ‘on-demand’ culture is one of the most significant contributors to our children’s tyrannical behavior. 

          In fact, I think we are all self-aware enough to admit that it’s not just our kids who have become more entitled over the last 10 years, is it? The ‘on-demand’ economy is an enormous change in American culture (and I am guessing worldwide as well). 

          It has benefits, like not waking a sleeping toddler or grocery shopping after a 10-hour workday. And it has fundamentally changed our mindsets around “time.” We look at “time” now not as something we fill with the busy work of family life – but as precious and worth paying a little extra to protect. 

          Unfortunately, the downside of the ‘on-demand’ economy is a culture of entitlement. You know that whiney sound that hits your eardrums just the wrong way as your 4-year-old demands uninterrupted WiFi or their daily Babyccino? Yeah, that.

          And although your 4-year-old doesn’t do the online food shopping or scramble for deals on Prime Day, they sure do watch a lot of Disney+, don’t they? When was the last time they had to wait for another episode of Bluey to autoplay? How about never.

          Even though things have changed, I would never suggest we go backward. We are saving time and energy for the NEW demands of modern parenting (insert what sociologists call Instesive Parenting). But if you’re reading this article, you may be concerned about how bad your child’s behavior has gotten – and me too.

          Sometimes listening to my children complain about things I never even dreamed of having when I was young makes me so mad. Well, to the right this ship and sail toward a more grateful attitude it’s a pretty simple process. We have to model the behaviors we want to see. 

          Modeling is the process in which one or more individuals serve as examples (models) that a child will emulate. Models are often parents, other adults, or children, but they may also be symbolic (e.g., a book or television character). A lot of the skills we learned as children were done through modeling, and the same goes for our kids. Incorporating actions that counteract the ‘on-demand’ nature of our modern lives will be vital to breaking down childhood entitlement. Still, more importantly, it’s up to us to enact them for our children to watch and see. 

          Three ways we can counteract childhood entitlement:

          Model: Waiting

          This doesn’t mean getting out of your car and waiting in line at Target. ‘Waiting’ can be as simple as growing a plant together in your kitchen, and if you grow it from a seed, there will be no instant gratification in sight. 

          Another simple way to model waiting is to quiet the morning rush – literally. Wait for your child without your standard narration. Keep your talking to a minimum and simply wait for them. Yes, this can be hard, especially when you know the morning sequence and just how many seconds it will take to go from on time to late, but you are modeling patience, so it will be worth it!

          Model: Saying “No”

          This one is a toughy, and many articles on entitlement suggest you introduce stronger boundaries with your child. Easier said than done. Since we are talking about learning from an example in this case: You have to model saying “No” to the demands of the external world. 

          Why do I know this is a problem for you? Well, it’s a problem for most moms. We want to be in three places at once because we want everyone to be happy (and society demands it of us). Unfortunately, we are teaching our children how to overextend themselves. Then, if we complain about it, we are teaching them to resent commitments we had control over in the first place. By modeling saying “No,” we demonstrate to our children the boundaries needed for a more curated and intentional life.

          Model: Gratitude

          Finally, the simplest way to counter entitlement is to shift the focus away from what we don’t have to what we do have. A daily gratitude practice introduces the language of “enough” into our homes. You can be grateful for a beautiful day; it doesn’t even have to be a gift or help from a friend, but yeah, add those to your list too. 

          To introduce a family gratitude practice you must start a practice yourself. This could be as simple as asking your children to pick a letter from the alphabet and see how many good things you can list that begin with the letter – or by writing down three things you’re grateful for each morning on a wipe-off board in the kitchen. The point is to do it every day and make sure they see you doing it.

          What we do and say matters to our children, and while we are not in control of how quickly their favorite movie arrives to Disney+, we can control the pace of our family’s life and the narrative we share around blessings and boundaries.


          BIO:


          Stef Tousignant is a parenting expert and gratitude nerd. She is a former professional nanny of 20+ years and the author of the award-winning bedtime book The Middle of the Night Book. Burned-out parents everywhere rely on her mindfulness tools and honest blog posts found at ParentDifferently.com. She hopes to normalize imperfect parenting by sharing her journey and the gifts a committed gratitude practice can bring to modern family life.


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            Balancing Three Children and an Early-Morning News Career

            A chat with Katherine Scott

            08.08.22 03:44 PM Comment(s) By Adrienne Towsen

            I am very excited to introduce our new blog category… interviews with working moms! Many thanks to Katherine Scott for speaking with me about how she balances being a mom of three and a busy career as a reporter for ABC Action News. Let’s get into it…

            The Working Mom: ” Tell me a little about your working mom situation”

            Katherine Scott:  “I am the mom of three. My oldest is 9, my middle child is 7 and my youngest is 4 1/2. We have an au pair who helps while my husband and I are at work. My work schedule is always early morning which is odd but consistent which really helps. I get in to work at 2:30 in the morning which means I get up at 1:45, get out of the house as quietly as possible and get make-up on once I get to the station.  I then work until mid-day. The time can vary, but it actually works really well to also allow me to be a mommy. I can be there for school pick-up. I can coach my daughter’s soccer team and be there for other after school activities.”

            The Working Mom: ” So do you crash by a certain time in the evening since you are up so early and busy all day?”

            Katherine Scott:  “My hope is…or my goal is to take a little nap when I get home in the afternoon. It doesn’t always happen. I also try to run to the gym and get some errands done before I go pick up the kids. When I don’t have the  nap, I can get very cranky😅. I can have a day or two without one, but when it’s more than that, it starts to catch up with me.”

            The Working Mom: “So I understand your husband’s schedule as an orthopedic surgeon is also demanding, but are you able to share some of the responsibilities with the kids?”

            Katherine Scott: We kind of do different things. I am never there in the morning, so anything that needs to be done then, he is there (our au pair starts at 6am). I do a lot more driving since I am there in the afternoon. He does a lot more laundry and cleaning than I do, but I do a lot more of the day to day things with the kids…make lunches, take them to sports practice, etc.”

            The Working Mom: “Was there ever a time you felt like you would prefer to stay home or perhaps take a sabbatical from work?”

            Katherine Scott:  “I would miss my job. Maternity leaves were good spaces to take a break, recover and bond with my babies. Twelve weeks is a good amount of time, and I really liked that, but then I was ready to go back. I think it’s most intimidating with the first one, because you don’t really know what your life is going to look like. With the second and third, everyone folded into the plan and it works. I mean…I am tired…some weeks more tired than others, and it took a little time, but I think I have finally found a work/life balance…as much as you can have one.”😉

            The Working Mom:  “What do you feel must be a priority with the kids? In other words, are there things you absolutely can’t miss?”

            Katherine Scott: “The benefit of my hours is that I can be there for many things. But I do miss a lot of morning stuff, because I don’t have a job you can pop in and out of. Once you are there, you are 100% there, but I can do the afternoon stuff. I try to volunteer at the school library. I love doing that. I love being in the classroom when possible. I kind of like to always have them wonder… when is Mommy going to be around the corner? I can’t be there every day but I definitely try to get involved as much as I can. I have been classroom mom several times. I think it’s important to know the teachers and other people the kids see at school.”

            The Working Mom: “Are there any pearls or strategies you can share that work particularly well for you to balance things on a day to day basis?”

            Katherine Scott:  “A couple of things… One is that I’ve learned to realize when I am hitting my limit, and I will try to make a change at that point. I will take a day and go to work, but skip the gym or go to the gym and skip other errands I have. The other thing I read somewhere, just about stuff around the house, is to let the kids help you. Things may not get done perfectly, but still let them help you.  It takes something off your plate, it gets things done and it teaches them something.  I also try to appreciate the fact that they are still really young, and they are not going to be this young for much longer, so I try to get a kick out of whatever they do.”


            The Working Mom: “Do you think the ability to manage work and family life gets harder or easier as the kids get older?” 

            Katherine Scott: “I actually think it’s harder. On the one hand, the sleep situation is better, and that makes it easier in some ways. Consistent sleep helps and there are no more diapers and strollers and things like that, so the mobility is better. But now…it’s the activities! It is all over the place. And my youngest hasn’t even really started with this yet. You pick them up at school and that’s just when the day begins! It’s fun and I do love it, but between that and the social calendar, it is quite busy.”

            The Working Mom: “Is there anything you would do differently when you first became a working mom based on what you have learned over the past nine years? Any advice you would give yourself as a first time mom?”

            Katherine Scott: “First of all, I would tell myself to start planning earlier. Like with daycare, I waited until the eleventh hour not realizing there would be wait lists. I would have definitely started earlier. I also made some arbitrary decisions with my first one about things I thought were important, which ended up being stressful and maybe not as important as I thought (example given about how long to breastfeed). So I was kinder on myself with the next two.  I think you have to give yourself a break and realize you can’t do everything.”

            The Working Mom: “Did you find there was a big difference in managing schedules and tasks when you went from having two to three children?”

            Katherine Scott: “I think the transitions from zero to one and then one to two were the hardest. Then two to three… I feel like in some ways we had the most fun with him. I wasn’t nervous anymore. I knew what it was. I was a lot more low key about it. I do think it will be hard once he starts more activities.

            The Working Mom: “Are you able to carve out any time for yourself? You mentioned the gym earlier.”

            Katherine Scott: Yes! and I have found it’s really important. For a while I didn’t or I would make time and something would come  up and I would not do it.   I found this class I really like. It’s circuit training. It’s not long…30 minutes of intense work but mentally it makes me excited, and of course physically it’s good for me too. I’m super into it. I’m kind of obsessed with it!đŸ’ȘđŸŒ

            As the kids have gotten older, I also try to go out some with friends. It’s not often, but when we can do it, we have “mommy nights”. or just try to get together with friends and have a little fun. And, I started playing tennis a couple of summers ago. I don’t do it often. It’s fun. I drive all my kids to the activities, so I want to do something fun too. So even if it’s not all the time, that kind of thing has really helped me mentally and makes me feel healthier.


            The Working Mom: “What happens when there is a conflict? If there is something you really want to do with or for your kids, but you cannot because of work, how does that affect you? How does it affect them?”

            Katherine Scott:  “That has definitely happened. The good news is between me and my husband and also my mother…usually someone can be there, but there have been times when we can’t get someone there. That’s the reality. It stinks and I feel bad for them, but they know we all have jobs and they know that we are there every chance we get.  They know we have friends with kids in the same school or on the same team, and we explain that they are excited to send us pictures and videos of what we miss.  I think they accept that, but there are times when I hear the tiny voice that says ‘Mommy, I really want you to be there’ and my heart just breaks.”

            The Working Mom: “In your opinion,do you think there is a way of truly finding work/life balance when you have a busy career and you are raising kids, especially multiple kids?”


            Katherine Scott:  “I feel like lately I have found a good balance. It’s never going to be perfect, but I try to be present.

            At work, I’m at work. I want to know if there is an emergency of course, or if someone just needs to call me that’s fine, but when I’m at work, I’m at work. When I’m at home, I’m at home. Sometimes I may have to do a little business at home, but I really try to separate them. I also feel like before I had kids, if I was stressed about something at work, I would come home still stressed about it and think about it until going back to work the next day, Now, I’m so busy, I can’t dwell on it. I think it’s knowing that not everything is going to be perfect and just doing the best that you can. I can be hard on myself sometimes, but I think I have gotten to the point where I am too tired to get upset about certain things. You just do what you can do. The fact of the matter is, I have a great relationship with the kids. I see them, I know what they’re doing, I know who their friends are…and work has been great about it. 

            The Working Mom:  “Do you have some flexibility at work?”

            Katherine Scott:  “Not really, once I’m at work, it’s not like I can just pop out for lunch.  But they understand. Everybody has their own family.  So if somebody is  sick and I can’t go, they understand. I have had this conversation with my news director about why I like the morning shift, and he’ll say… well, family is the most important thing… he has 3 kids of his own. It’s important to work somewhere where they understand that value. I also think it’s important that your kids see you doing something and contributing in some way.”

            Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and advice with our working mom community!!💗

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              A Pediatric Guide to Understanding and Treating Acne

              All About Acne

              09.28.22 05:00 PM Comment(s) By Lisa

               Ask the Expert Series with Dr. Antoinetta D’Urso



              Please join us in welcoming Dr. Antonietta D’Urso as our expert in an ongoing series of pediatric topics that are of common concern.


              Dr. Antonietta D’Urso MD became a board-certified pediatrician in 2020 after completing her pediatric residency at New York-Presbyterian Weill Cornell Medical Center in Manhattan. She obtained her BA in Neurobiology from Harvard University in 2012, specializing in the neurons of the gastrointestinal tract. She obtained her MD from Geisinger Commonwealth School of Medicine in 2017, graduating with dual honors Alpha Omega Alpha Honor Society and Gold Humanism Honor Society.  Dr. Antonietta has presented her research at numerous national medical conferences and has research experience in neurogastroenterology, probiotics, nutrition, dental health, and pediatric inflammatory bowel disease. She is a Downingtown, Pennsylvania native and speaks English, Spanish, and Italian fluently.


               

              Dr. Antonietta D’Urso, MD, FAAP

              This week’s topic is “All About Acne”

              The Working Mom: “What is your best advice to overall acne prevention?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “Prevention would be not touching your face, showering or washing your face immediately after sports, and healthy eating. By healthy eating I mean eating as much organic food as possible, eating local meat from farmers markets, fish, and a lot of vegetables and fruits in your diet. I love farmers markets!”

               

              “Unfortunately, however, the majority of acne is genetic or due to hormones, so the focus really needs to be on tackling the acne after it starts to tame it and prevent long term scarring. This is not just important for future long-term damage, but it is mentally distressing for teenagers and adults alike. Your face is how people know YOU. It affects everyone’s self-confidence. Any photo taken or any mirror walked by is a stressor, so it is very important to address teenage acne (or adult acne) early to minimize the impact on anxiety or depression.”


              The Working Mom: “As you are now in the beginnings of developing a Medi-spa, why is this cause so important to you?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “I developed extremely severe acne just as I graduated from college. Like many other patients with acne, I feel like I tried EVERYTHING, and nothing helped. I felt desperate, and I found an aesthetician who really knew skin and had an integrative approach. I had essentially a team of physicians who listened to that aesthetician’s recommendations and prescribed me hormonal medications, along with facials, lasers, and topical ointments. With the combination, it finally took a year to get rid of the active acne and then we were on scar treatment mode for a couple of years. The whole treatment took an approach of diet, exercise, medication, ointments, chemical peels, lasers, and maintenance skin care products.”

               

              “I am now able to create that change in my patients within months with the right combination of approaches. That means the world to me because I believed it was not fair that some of these treatments are so expensive, and teenagers cannot afford that! So, now I do chemical peels in the office. I have probably done around 40 in the past two months and the results have been incredible! Some parents asked me to expand to adults so now that is what I am doing as of a few weeks ago. These peel treatments can cost $200-$250 each, almost always as an hour facial. For me, it was all a “medical” approach, so I wanted to get in, get my peel, and get out because I was so busy (as opposed to a relaxing spa facial). Now, that is my goal in providing this service for others. For me, skin care is more of a medical thing, and I want to be able to provide that in an affordable way for all. Plus—I love talking about skincare so if I have an afternoon of all acne or anti-aging appointments, I really enjoy it!”


               

              The Working Mom: “How important are diet, nutrition, and hydration for skin health?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “Diet, nutrition, and hydration are components of the whole picture. There are different triggers for everyone. In general, I have found that dairy and gluten are common triggers for patients. However, only changing these components may not make a huge difference or any difference at all depending on what is causing the acne itself. The acne could be mostly genetic, hormones, and/or sweat/bacteria on the face.”


               

              The Working Mom: “What are things to avoid (from your experience) that can make acne worse?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “After sports practices or working out, shower and wash your face. Sitting in your sweat for hours without showering can make your forehead breakout as well as cause back acne. If your teen is an active athlete but runs from one activity to another, washing their face after practice or using a wipe on their face is essential.”


               

              The Working Mom: “As our “tween” to teenage girls begin to experiment with cosmetics, is there a particular brand that you find is better for acne-prone skin?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “I like Bare Naturals powder foundation. I honestly don’t use it too often anymore because I am usually wearing a mask at work, but it has been my mainstay for 10 years. Liquid foundations look oilier and seem to draw more attention to your acne/oily skin. I have seen people have skin reactions to different mascaras as well and tell them to stop using their mascara immediately because their skin just does not agree with it. My personal favorite is Thrive. My favorite eyeliners are Cover Girl or NARS.”


               

              The Working Mom: “To pop it, or not to pop it? That is the question!” 


              Dr. Antonietta: “Don’t touch your face. Don’t pop pimples! That will lead to scarring. That said, if you have big pimples full of “stuff”, you need a facial with an aesthetician so they can extract the pus in a way that will not scar. If the pus stays in there, it stretches out the pore, which can cause scarring as well.”


               

              The Working Mom: “Can stress really make acne worse?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “Absolutely. Stress relieving techniques and activities can help with stress related acne. Massage, yoga, acupuncture, chiropractor
I’m a fan of these for stress reduction. My newest favorite thing is Himalayan salt caves
there is one in Malvern, PA. There are many proposed skin benefits to salt caves or “halotherapy”. I am not an expert in this and have no hard data, but I will say I love salt caves and they are very relaxing.”


               

              The Working Mom: “Is there such a thing as “over-washing” your face?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “Yes. The goal is to balance out the oils in your face. Stripping your skin of oils will either make it too dry or make it produce even more oil counter-productively. A lot of the acne face washes can dry out your face because they contain salicylic acid that sits on the surface of the skin and irritates it, making it red and dry.”


               

              The Working Mom: “What is your best advice to spot treat a few annoying pimples?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “Well, typically I prescribe a retinoid ointment. However, it really depends on the type of acne and where it is on your face. If the pimples are only around the jaw for example, that could mean it is hormonal and with teenage girls we could try a hormonal oral contraceptive or the prescription medication spironolactone. My favorite skin care company, Sesha also has an acne gel that I tried for the first-time last week and a couple hours later, I honestly had trouble finding where the pimple originally was!”


               

              The Working Mom: “We understand you have done years’ worth of research and support a skincare line called Sesha. Can you tell us why these products are superior to other products you have tried?”


              Dr. Antonietta: “I was lucky enough to go to an aesthetician who introduced me to Sesha products. I essentially discovered that they were the only products that truly worked on my face. While the chemical peels balanced out my previously oily skin, there were no “perfect” face cleansers or face moisturizers I could find—until Sesha. (And believe me I tried hundreds!)”

               

              “The origin of the company is super interesting: they were looking to find a way to prevent children with diabetes from having to use needles for insulin and wanted to deliver it some way through the skin. They found that they could deliver to the bottom layer of the skin and no further, so that is how their skin care products were born. I majored in Neurobiology and have done medical research in multiple areas for over ten years, so I understood the science and that they actually had the data to back their science.”

               

              “When I took over my practice, I started out recommending Sesha products to patients. I realized I needed to make it easier for them to get the products, so I reached out to the company and said I NEED these products for my acne patients. I stock the products in my office now. I started with the products I had found to be the most helpful with acne skin and anti-aging, but they are constantly innovating and developing new products. Now, I have many patients who have tried out these products who agree that they are superior to others.”

               

              “I could talk about Sesha products all day, but I will end with—not only does this amazing company exist, but their headquarters are in West Chester, PA. Local company! The CEO is Phyllis Hsieh who was one of the two original founders. Since our offices are only ten minutes apart, I had the extreme pleasure of meeting her. I had been telling everyone I knew about this company and their story for ten years—so when I finally met her, I felt like I was meeting a celebrity! She is a truly inspirational working mom, who now runs the company with her daughter, Esther Tou. And yes, I do text her all the fantastic Sesha product feedback I get from my patients on a weekly basis!”



               Dr. Antonietta D’Urso, MD, FAAP

               

              The Working Mom: From a personal perspective, Dr Antonietta is my Maggie’s pediatrician alongside her dad, Dr. Francesco D’Urso who was MY pediatrician. Such a cool legacy here. They are like family to us!


               

              *To learn more about the skin care clinic Dr. Antonietta has developed: Click here for more details.


              *To learn more about Sesha products: click here: Sesha Skin Therapy.

               

              Thank you for joining “The Working Mom” and Dr. Antonietta in our first “Ask the Expert” interview. Upcoming topics will include: “Belly Pain: When to Worry?”, “Early Signs of Teenage Depression and Anxiety”, and “Common Misconceptions Regarding ADD/ADHD”….. (more topics to follow).

               

              If there is a particular pediatric topic you would like to see addressed in our series, please let us know!!

               

              Xoxo ~Lisa

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